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Grief can take over your world and stop you from living your life. You are coping with the heartache, coping with the stress of a single life…and you end up living passively rather than seeking a great life or even achieving your dreams.
I realised that if we don’t grab life now, then death will grab us before we live those dreams…so here are some thoughts
Are you thinking about what you can do rather than what you can’t?
Are you thinking about your strengths rather than your weaknesses?
Are you thinking of setting personal goals or getting through the day? 
Are you thinking about what you gained from being in love or what you lost when they died?
Of course I understand that this sounds easy and it isn’t..but if we don’t try then we will never succeed..
Mary – we all need to be reminded at times..thanks for reminding me :)
1516 days ago
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Anna,
Thank you so much for spotlighting my comment. We’re all in this together, and the support we draw from one another makes a big difference in the healing process. Your observations lifted my spirits, because today has been a rough day for me. Thank you for reminding me of my own words. :)
Hugs,
Mary
1518 days ago
[...] are starting to turn their life around after bereavement. Mary just posted a wonderful comment on Grab Life Before Death Gets There First. Her comment shows there is hope in a brighter [...]
That is wonderful news, it is funny how we struggle to leave the past behind despite as human beings knowing that there is nothing we can do about it. I believe that friends can be a huge help with this as we start to move forward, I will post today about your story as it give other readers hope that we can find a way through grief..thank you SO much for sharing
Anna,
This post is thought-provoking. It does take awhile to gather one’s strength to be able to contemplate a future. This past year has been one of healing and recuperation for me. Your blog has helped me tremendously. Last night I had a phone conversation with a friend that I last saw in December. He found a marked difference in my attitude about life. Before, I had been looking back on the loss of my life with my husband. I was coping pretty well with the change in circumstances. But I was having a hard time imagining what my new life would be like.
Now these are the things I’m looking forward to: a reunion with my sisters in May and a trip to San Francisco in July or August. Tomorrow I’m interviewing to be matched as a mentor for a girl in the Big Brothers/Big Sisters program.
I didn’t rush out to make changes but I’ve been trying to open my heart to new opportunities. To anyone else just starting this journey, I want to lend a word of encouragement. Your heart can heal one day at a time. When you look back next year, you’ll see how far you’ve come!
Take care,
Mary